Over the last three months I have learned several new lessons about friendship. Some of them have been pretty hard to take and others have really lifted my spirits.
Perhaps I should start with my dismissal from the job and I have held and loved for the past 10 years. ON my 10th anniversary (6/4/08) I was fired. I had no idea it was coming. One minute I was counseling with someone whose husband had recently died and within 20 minutes I was gone...banished from the building...told not to return for my belongs (I had a lot of stuff there after 10 years) until the "investigation" had taken place and I was called.
My first lesson on friendship came rapidly...my "roommate," the incredible person I had shared an office with for many years immediately called my cell phone and said she would meet me for lunch. She came to the restaurant and said all the wonderful things a friend should say at that time and in that situation. She definitely made me feel better. She fulfilled the saying "a friend in need is a friend indeed!"
Life is kind of a blur after that. I was called the next day, told the "investigation" was completed and told to come into the office at 2:00 p.m. In I went at 2:00 p.m. along with my dear husband and an attorney that I had never met...but had called in desperation. It was all over in a matter of minutes. Sign here....sign here...sign here...here is your final check...turn in your ID badge...and, by the way, we are firing you because we understand you had a dog at one of the support groups. If you think you just read that line incorrectly please know that you did not. That was my demise after 10 years of working many, many hours, facilitating sometimes 3 support groups in the evening every week and working many Saturdays! (By the way, I did have Barclee at a group so I was "guilty as charged!")
Now comes my second lesson about friendship...beside being my lover, my husband, my confident...my husband, Bob, is even more importantly my dearest and best friend. he was (and is) incredible! He said terrible things about my employer (yes!), said wonderful things about me (yes!) and assured me that everything was going to be just find and that in time we would look on this time as just a little "bump in the road!" He said lots more wonderful things too but they all proved to me beyond a doubt that I married a pretty terrific guy!
And therein ended my positive lessons about friendship...at least from people I thought were friends. One person that I thought I was very close to did, in fact, call and tell me that she couldn't talk to me because no one was to have contact with me from "there." I never heard from her again.
People I had lunched with, stayed late with, helped out and who had helped me out...they were no where to be seen...or heard from. I guess they proved the saying "out of sight, out of mind!" I still haven't heard from them...3 months later...and my bet is that I never will again.
However, I have a "new friend" that I met in March through my blog. She lives in Virginia and I have never met here...but she wrote some of the most encouraging emails that I have ever received and her words truly helped heal my heart. She proved the saying "there is no distance too great between friends for friendship gives wings to the heart!"
So, I think that at the age of "almost 63" I have finally understood the difference between "friends" and "acquaintances." I have a long list of "acquaintances" (although the list is getting much smaller!) and a very short...but very meaningful...list of people I can truly call "friends." I am grateful for the lesson. I am grateful for those who cared enough about me to console me and to stand by me and I don't care if my friend list is shorter than I ever imagined.
And, perhaps most importantly, I have learned, in a whole new way, the kind of friend I need to be to others. With God's help I hope I can live up to this lesson!
And by the way...Bob was right. Things have worked out in a very positive way! God is good...all the time!
Monday, September 8, 2008
Saturday, September 6, 2008
World's Worst Blogger
No doubt I could win the award for the World's Worst Blogger! I just noticed that I have been left off the list on one of my favorite blogs to read. My last blog was in April.
I think the problem is that I forgot why I was writing. No one...well hardly anyone...ever visited my blog and so I kind of thought "why bother." But the truth is that I started this blog so that I could express myself in some written form other than writing in a journal. Of course I also started it because I was grieving the death of my sweet little Yorkie, Mouse, who died on April 16, 2007.
Now I have just experienced the death of my last Yorkie...Christy died on August 12, 2008. She was just a couple of week shy of her 17th birthday...which is today! I am passionately in the journey of grieving for her. At the end she didn't have much quality of life but she still seemed to want to go on and so I have her that option...until she couldn't anymore.
The house is not empty of puppy love. Barclee, our Bichon Frise, came to live with us in early December. She turned 5 on March 1st. She seemed to be more than content to just have a loving home and stay in the background of Christy. Now Christy is gone and Barclee is trying to get used to be in the limelight! She still refuses to eat dinner where Christy used to...which was in the kitchen. No, she wants to eat in the living room where we fed her from her first day here on Audubon Drive! She is very sweet and I truly do love her dearly...but I must admit that I miss those little Yorkies very, very much.
So much has happened to me that requires writing about in order not to carry it around with me. So, I am going to try this again. Only this time I will keep in mind that I am writing just for me and if anyone should come by and visit, well may God bless them...and if no one comes that is just fine too.
But now I have to go and finish a sermon for church tomorrow. Must keep priorities straight!
Until later......
I think the problem is that I forgot why I was writing. No one...well hardly anyone...ever visited my blog and so I kind of thought "why bother." But the truth is that I started this blog so that I could express myself in some written form other than writing in a journal. Of course I also started it because I was grieving the death of my sweet little Yorkie, Mouse, who died on April 16, 2007.
Now I have just experienced the death of my last Yorkie...Christy died on August 12, 2008. She was just a couple of week shy of her 17th birthday...which is today! I am passionately in the journey of grieving for her. At the end she didn't have much quality of life but she still seemed to want to go on and so I have her that option...until she couldn't anymore.
The house is not empty of puppy love. Barclee, our Bichon Frise, came to live with us in early December. She turned 5 on March 1st. She seemed to be more than content to just have a loving home and stay in the background of Christy. Now Christy is gone and Barclee is trying to get used to be in the limelight! She still refuses to eat dinner where Christy used to...which was in the kitchen. No, she wants to eat in the living room where we fed her from her first day here on Audubon Drive! She is very sweet and I truly do love her dearly...but I must admit that I miss those little Yorkies very, very much.
So much has happened to me that requires writing about in order not to carry it around with me. So, I am going to try this again. Only this time I will keep in mind that I am writing just for me and if anyone should come by and visit, well may God bless them...and if no one comes that is just fine too.
But now I have to go and finish a sermon for church tomorrow. Must keep priorities straight!
Until later......
Thursday, April 3, 2008
PAY IT FORWARD!!
Pay It Forward Exchange (Ravelry)
I'm SO EXCITED to be involved in the Pay It Forward Exchange on Ravelry! It’s based on the concept of the movie “Pay it Forward” where acts or deeds of kindness are done without expecting something in return, just passing it on. So here’s how it works. I will make and send a handmade gift to the first 3 people who leave a comment to this post on my blog requesting to join this PIF exchange. I do not know what that gift will be yet, and it won’t be sent this month, probably not next month, but it will be sent (within 6 months) and that’s a promise! What YOU have to do in return, then, is pay it forward by making the same promise on your blog. I will now Pay It Forward to you THREE, I wonder who you will be?! Please, be a PIF! You will enjoy it just as much as we do! And, remember...you have 6 months to get your gifts done! Come on, you know you would love to be one of my angels. Then, one day, when you least expect it, you will get a gift that I have made especially for YOU! Please remember, you don't have to knit or crochet to participate, anyone who can make a nice handmade gift is welcome to join. :)
This has been forwarded from both Catsinger and Miz Minka's blog's where I signed up to PIF. As Catsinger said, it sounds like something Jesus would do! Now I am not very talented EXCEPT making quilts and things quilt related...so, my gift to you three will most certainly be a quilt related gift. I can't wait to find out who you are so I can start on your special gift. I know not too many people read my blog but I sure am hoping for at least three of you...please??
Saturday, March 8, 2008
Where Have All he Comments Gone??
It was brought to my attention by a lovely new friend that there was no place to make comments on my two blogs from yesterday! I have no idea what happened but I think I may have fixed it! So, if anyone wants to comment on either of those blogs, then please comment on this one...if I have fixed!!
Friday, March 7, 2008
The "Joys" of Electronic Equipment!
I am certainly quite old enough to remember party lines and rotary phones, typing on typewriters and using carbon paper, playing 45's on my record player! However, today I find it difficult to imagine how we ever lived without cell phones, computers and Ipods!
In January of this year I got a little inkling of what it would be like without some of the things we simply take for granted now when 3 unhappy things happened to me quite rapidly!
#1 - My laptop computer was stolen from my office at the church I serve at. There was no break-in, nothing else was touched...just my laptop, power cord and mouse. It was a Dell laptop purchased in 2004 when I started seminary on my way to become an ordained deacon. It served me well all those years! After ordination I brought it to the church office and was on the network so I could do my church work. I had been using it for over a year in that capacity when it suddenly disappeared. I was quite sad!
#2 - My Ipod died. I loved my Ipod. I had little speakers at the office, at the church and in various places at home so I could listen to my music. It soothed me on airplanes (I hate to fly) and was my constant companion. But it just died...no farewells...it was just "gone."
#3 - Our home desk top computer "kind of" crashed. It told me in ugly little boxes that I had many "fatal errors" and that turning it off would be a fatal error of the most permanent kind! I knew that it was getting close to calling it a day. It had been built for us by a friend with only a 20G hard drive. I had installed another 120G hard drive but it was still getting slower and faltering every day. And then it fell into that "fatal error" stage. I also had a 300G SimpleDrive on which I had backed up everything on both hard drives so I knew all my "info" was safe. Not so with my laptop which had all the papers I had written for 3 years on it and NO backup!
So, we were computerless. Not a good thing for my husband who does his bowling secretarial duties on the computer and does our income tax also! Not a good thing for me who spends her whole life at home either at the computer or in the quilt room!
There are stores! Many stores that are only too happy to sell computers and Ipods! I shopped around, comparing prices and learned some terrifying...all new computers have Windows Vista!! Everyone I knew said "stay away from Windows Vista"...but that's all you can buy! So, I bought a new Toshiba laptop complete with all the new "bells and whistles" (none of which I knew how to use!). It has a 17 inch screen, etc. etc. etc!
Then I got an HP TouchSmart Desktop. This one has a 19 inch screen and everything is one piece. It also came with all the "bells and whistles" (I still don't know how to use them.) However, you can touch the screen instead of using the mouse...that is very kewl!
It only took me 3 weeks to figure out how to put everything together so that everything would work together. I actually set up a network which included a new HP Printer. Now I can sit on the back porch with my laptop, get on line and print things out! Wow!
I still can't completely figure out Windows Vista but I do have a couple of "dummy" books and hope to crack the code sometime soon. I also hope to figure out Microsoft Office 2007 which is SO different from 2003 which I am used to!
And the Ipod? Well, I purchased a Classic but it took several new software packages and many calls to iTunes to figure that whole thing out. My music was on my old iPod but I couldn't see it...but I could play it. Getting it off your iPod onto your computer and then on to a new iPod can be done...but trust me, it sure isn't easy!
What an exciting and education time these past couple of months have been!
In January of this year I got a little inkling of what it would be like without some of the things we simply take for granted now when 3 unhappy things happened to me quite rapidly!
#1 - My laptop computer was stolen from my office at the church I serve at. There was no break-in, nothing else was touched...just my laptop, power cord and mouse. It was a Dell laptop purchased in 2004 when I started seminary on my way to become an ordained deacon. It served me well all those years! After ordination I brought it to the church office and was on the network so I could do my church work. I had been using it for over a year in that capacity when it suddenly disappeared. I was quite sad!
#2 - My Ipod died. I loved my Ipod. I had little speakers at the office, at the church and in various places at home so I could listen to my music. It soothed me on airplanes (I hate to fly) and was my constant companion. But it just died...no farewells...it was just "gone."
#3 - Our home desk top computer "kind of" crashed. It told me in ugly little boxes that I had many "fatal errors" and that turning it off would be a fatal error of the most permanent kind! I knew that it was getting close to calling it a day. It had been built for us by a friend with only a 20G hard drive. I had installed another 120G hard drive but it was still getting slower and faltering every day. And then it fell into that "fatal error" stage. I also had a 300G SimpleDrive on which I had backed up everything on both hard drives so I knew all my "info" was safe. Not so with my laptop which had all the papers I had written for 3 years on it and NO backup!
So, we were computerless. Not a good thing for my husband who does his bowling secretarial duties on the computer and does our income tax also! Not a good thing for me who spends her whole life at home either at the computer or in the quilt room!
There are stores! Many stores that are only too happy to sell computers and Ipods! I shopped around, comparing prices and learned some terrifying...all new computers have Windows Vista!! Everyone I knew said "stay away from Windows Vista"...but that's all you can buy! So, I bought a new Toshiba laptop complete with all the new "bells and whistles" (none of which I knew how to use!). It has a 17 inch screen, etc. etc. etc!
Then I got an HP TouchSmart Desktop. This one has a 19 inch screen and everything is one piece. It also came with all the "bells and whistles" (I still don't know how to use them.) However, you can touch the screen instead of using the mouse...that is very kewl!
It only took me 3 weeks to figure out how to put everything together so that everything would work together. I actually set up a network which included a new HP Printer. Now I can sit on the back porch with my laptop, get on line and print things out! Wow!
I still can't completely figure out Windows Vista but I do have a couple of "dummy" books and hope to crack the code sometime soon. I also hope to figure out Microsoft Office 2007 which is SO different from 2003 which I am used to!
And the Ipod? Well, I purchased a Classic but it took several new software packages and many calls to iTunes to figure that whole thing out. My music was on my old iPod but I couldn't see it...but I could play it. Getting it off your iPod onto your computer and then on to a new iPod can be done...but trust me, it sure isn't easy!
What an exciting and education time these past couple of months have been!
Somebody Read My Blog!!
Wow! I received an email today with a copy of an email where someone I don't even know said that they read my October 31st blog! I was SO excited! Of course, that was the last blog I had written...but someone outside my personal and geographical range actually had read it...recently!
I haven't written in over 4 months because I have been in some kind of a "desert" in my life and really haven't felt that I had much to say that would interest anyone...not even me! However, I have been rejuvenated by the thought that someone read my blog!
There have, of course, been some good things happen in the desert! The very best one came at the beginning of December. A friend called me and said that she had the perfect dog for me! Now, I have not actually been looking for a dog...perfect or otherwise. I am still feeling the pain of little Mousie's death last April and my dear Christy is still with me. Today she is 16 1/2 years old! She only weighs about half her previous weight but she walks, eats, loves her treats and still tolerates me petting her for about 1 minute! She is completely deaf and blind and lives in her own little world...but she is not in pain and she still seems to enjoy the life that she has. She has been with me through so much that I am sticking with her until she lets me know it is no longer necessary.
So, even a perfect dog would not fit into my life at this time. All my attention needs to go to Christy. Therefore, I told my friend "thank you" but for now I would have to pass. And, there is also the fact that my dear Bob truly dislikes dogs (at least in our house) so any decision about "another dog" would have to be with him. However, my friend was quite insistent that I take the phone number and make the call. So I did.
One thing led to another and before I knew it Bob and I had an appointment to see the man and his dog after Church on Sunday. All the way there Bob gave me 100 good reasons why this was really stupid. We arrived at the appointed place at the appointed time. To save you from having to read any more "specifics" let me just say that Bob and I left with Barclee...an adorable Bichon Frise!
The rest, as they say, is history. Barclee squirmed in our hearts and our lives without any trouble. She is absolutely respectful of Christy...perhaps even a little afraid of her! Bob is crazy about her and I adore her. She was certainly our most wonderful Christmas present.
A few facts...Barclee turned 5 years old on March 1, 2008. She belonged to a woman named Margaret from the time she was 6 weeks old until she came to our house. She NEVER went outside. She was paper trained because Margaret was too old to take her for walks. She never was allowed in the backyard because Margaret was afraid she would get fleas. She is snow white and looks like a lamb. She weighs about 12 lbs. Sadly, Margaret fell in her home on Thanksgiving,breaking several small bones in her back. She is now residing in a nursing facility as at the age of 93 they were unable to do any surgery. Her 72 year old son was then faced with finding Barclee a new home so he told a friend who told my friend who told me....We keep Margaret in our prayers. She has long forgotten that she had a dog named Barclee.
Barclee's life is quite different now. She gets walked about 5 times a day and is very good about doing her "business" outside! She LOVES to be outside and although the weather hasn't been great here, we do let her run around in the back yard every now and then. She loves to play and has more toys than some kids! Bob only had one decree...NO SLEEPING ON THE BED! That is what he told her the first night and she ran and slept in the living room on the couch. The next night when he came into the bedroom she took one look at him and ran into the living room. He felt so bad that he invited her back into the bedroom...on the bed. Guess where she has been sleeping every since????
Now this is where I always get discouraged...trying to put pictures in my blog. However, I am going to close this blog entry with, I hope, some pictures of Barclee...and then I think I will start work on my next blog!!
I haven't written in over 4 months because I have been in some kind of a "desert" in my life and really haven't felt that I had much to say that would interest anyone...not even me! However, I have been rejuvenated by the thought that someone read my blog!
There have, of course, been some good things happen in the desert! The very best one came at the beginning of December. A friend called me and said that she had the perfect dog for me! Now, I have not actually been looking for a dog...perfect or otherwise. I am still feeling the pain of little Mousie's death last April and my dear Christy is still with me. Today she is 16 1/2 years old! She only weighs about half her previous weight but she walks, eats, loves her treats and still tolerates me petting her for about 1 minute! She is completely deaf and blind and lives in her own little world...but she is not in pain and she still seems to enjoy the life that she has. She has been with me through so much that I am sticking with her until she lets me know it is no longer necessary.
So, even a perfect dog would not fit into my life at this time. All my attention needs to go to Christy. Therefore, I told my friend "thank you" but for now I would have to pass. And, there is also the fact that my dear Bob truly dislikes dogs (at least in our house) so any decision about "another dog" would have to be with him. However, my friend was quite insistent that I take the phone number and make the call. So I did.
One thing led to another and before I knew it Bob and I had an appointment to see the man and his dog after Church on Sunday. All the way there Bob gave me 100 good reasons why this was really stupid. We arrived at the appointed place at the appointed time. To save you from having to read any more "specifics" let me just say that Bob and I left with Barclee...an adorable Bichon Frise!
The rest, as they say, is history. Barclee squirmed in our hearts and our lives without any trouble. She is absolutely respectful of Christy...perhaps even a little afraid of her! Bob is crazy about her and I adore her. She was certainly our most wonderful Christmas present.
A few facts...Barclee turned 5 years old on March 1, 2008. She belonged to a woman named Margaret from the time she was 6 weeks old until she came to our house. She NEVER went outside. She was paper trained because Margaret was too old to take her for walks. She never was allowed in the backyard because Margaret was afraid she would get fleas. She is snow white and looks like a lamb. She weighs about 12 lbs. Sadly, Margaret fell in her home on Thanksgiving,breaking several small bones in her back. She is now residing in a nursing facility as at the age of 93 they were unable to do any surgery. Her 72 year old son was then faced with finding Barclee a new home so he told a friend who told my friend who told me....We keep Margaret in our prayers. She has long forgotten that she had a dog named Barclee.
Barclee's life is quite different now. She gets walked about 5 times a day and is very good about doing her "business" outside! She LOVES to be outside and although the weather hasn't been great here, we do let her run around in the back yard every now and then. She loves to play and has more toys than some kids! Bob only had one decree...NO SLEEPING ON THE BED! That is what he told her the first night and she ran and slept in the living room on the couch. The next night when he came into the bedroom she took one look at him and ran into the living room. He felt so bad that he invited her back into the bedroom...on the bed. Guess where she has been sleeping every since????
Now this is where I always get discouraged...trying to put pictures in my blog. However, I am going to close this blog entry with, I hope, some pictures of Barclee...and then I think I will start work on my next blog!!
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
How Sad!
How very sad! That's all I could think of to say after wandering around blogsphere reading and commenting whereever I could...and then clicking on my own blog and discovering that I had written....nothing...since August 19th. Gosh, that was almost a lifetime ago!
There actually was a slight reason why I stopped. I wrote a little blog about my grandson, Jacob's, baptism in which I was blessed to have been a part of, and when I went to add all my great pics...utter failure! So after about 10 tries I just gave up and obviously have not come around since!
Part of THAT reason is because I have taken up quilting again. After a VERY long hiatus from quilting during the time I was in school training to be a Deacon, I have finally hit the quilt room again with gusto! I'm not totally sure but I think I am currently working on about 4 quilts at the same time!
So, this is just an announcement that I think I am back! I'm writing this at work (it's Halloween and we were told to dress in costume...mine is of an unemployed person so how can I work...only kidding...I'm really dressed as a Cub's Fan which means I have a big "L" on my forehead for "Loser!") but when I get home this evening I am going to try that picture insert stuff again and write about what has been happening since August 19th!
Stay tuned!!
There actually was a slight reason why I stopped. I wrote a little blog about my grandson, Jacob's, baptism in which I was blessed to have been a part of, and when I went to add all my great pics...utter failure! So after about 10 tries I just gave up and obviously have not come around since!
Part of THAT reason is because I have taken up quilting again. After a VERY long hiatus from quilting during the time I was in school training to be a Deacon, I have finally hit the quilt room again with gusto! I'm not totally sure but I think I am currently working on about 4 quilts at the same time!
So, this is just an announcement that I think I am back! I'm writing this at work (it's Halloween and we were told to dress in costume...mine is of an unemployed person so how can I work...only kidding...I'm really dressed as a Cub's Fan which means I have a big "L" on my forehead for "Loser!") but when I get home this evening I am going to try that picture insert stuff again and write about what has been happening since August 19th!
Stay tuned!!
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